Published on: 13/11/19
This week is National Anti-bullying week 2019 with the theme ‘change starts with us’ based on the ethos small change, big difference.
The Anti-Bullying Alliance says that change starts with a conversation and it’s a collective responsibility to stop bullying.
Bullying is something that can happen to anybody of any age, sex or nationality. Around a quarter of children and young people say it is something they worry about.
A study in 2016 revealed that almost three in five people aged 11 to 17 will have been either bullied or assaulted by someone of a similar age. And a person doesn’t have to be face-to-face with someone for them to be bullied. It can include people talking about others. Cyber bullying is also something that is quite common where the bullying happens online or on mobile phones.
Children and young people with a disability, and those with special educational needs, are around twice as likely to be bullied than those without a disability.
Tips on dealing with a bully
It’s important to feel safe. Never put yourself in a situation where you might be in danger or will be open to assault.
Tips on dealing with bullying:
- Don’t be on your own. Where possible stick in a crowd or with a group of friends. A bully is less likely to start on you if you are with people. It is also a good idea if you are worried about physical bullying, where you may be assaulted.
- Walk away. You should try to ignore a bully and walk away with your head held high. This body language will show them that you are confident (even if you don’t really feel that way). Sometimes walking away is even harder than losing your temper but it’s not a cowardly move. Chances are sooner or later the bully will get bored with trying to bother you.
- Stay calm. It might be really tempting to lose your temper and even lash out at a bully. But try your best to hold back, no matter what they say to upset you. If you get angry a bully will know they have control over your emotions.
- Write a diary. Note down times when you have been bullied and who was involved. This will help if you need to report the bullying.
- Tell someone. Talk to someone who will be able to support you such as a friend, teacher or family member.
These tips come from Me and my brain, our handbook for teenagers affected by acquired brain injury. You can order the book here.
